I woke up this morning to an e-mail about my blog post, “Getting Out”. It seems that a few PCVs who are still in Ukraine have taken issue with it, and reported it to PC. I was asked to either password protect my blog or be more “culturally sensitive” in my entries. A few people “defriended” me on Facebook, and one wrote harsh (and inaccurate) criticism on my Facebook wall, which I had to delete.
Perhaps I could have been more tactful when I wrote that entry. However, I was being completely honest, whereas usually, in my blog posts, I self-censor, because I am fully aware of the impact of what people write about other cultures. When a person is frustrated, however, the filters usually are removed.
What I cannot help but think, though, is – who are these people, who think they have the right to sit in judgment on my experience?
Here is what I have to say to the people who have felt that they have the right to criticize me – before you cast stones, look in the mirror. Very few people in this world are so without fault that they have the right to criticize others. Also realize that we all have very different experiences – whether it is in Peace Corps, in every day life, or just on an errand to the grocery store. We none of us have the right to judge another. If you want to “defriend” me on Facebook, you are not really my friend anyway. If you do not understand where I come from, and the person I am, then we should not be in contact. I work every day to be authentic, to be kind, to be patient. Guess what – I am human, and sometimes I fail at my efforts. I don’t claim to be perfect, but I can say that I try.
Can you say the same?